I think I am tired of the "moral high ground"
people are taking regarding the Internet-generation. Indeed there are children,
adolescents, and young adults who carry an attitude of entitlement, but folks,
my generation was called "the me-generation" long before this current
generation was even a twinkle in daddy's eye. My mother told me stories of the
flapper's (1920's) selfishness, pettiness, and lavishness. This me-generation thing has
been going on for a very long time, but the term came along with my generation.
No generation springs whole-cloth into existence. If our children and grandchildren want a smart-phone, insist on the latest gaming system, grumble because the TV isn't HD, or don't play outside, there are two factors to blame. Of course, society/peers and the expectations there are big influences, but the ultimate responsibility for teaching moral codes and selflessness falls to us. Parents and grandparents.
Yup, as a kid, my curfew was the street light, my mom came looking for me (she didn't like to yell), I didn't have a cell-phone or a laptop, and we were lucky if we had a working TV. But in all honesty, if my generation had, had the technology that this generation has, and my mom could have afforded it, we would have had it. She didn't believe in depriving us of the most current trends just because she didn't have them when she grew up. She also didn't believe it was a terrible thing to give us what she could afford. And neither did or do I.
Sure, I had to work to use her car, and indeed, I had to ask permission. But my mom usually gave me the use of it and it always had gas in it. Sometimes I had to gas it up, but she would never have sent me out without the money to fill it. (Mine or hers). I also had to find a payphone to let her know if plans changed. This wasn't because I was such a great kid/adolescent but because she had rules and I'd better follow them. In other words, my mother set boundaries and I had to stay within them. No personal moral high-ground here, it was because she expected it that I did it.
If this generation doesn't meet your morality then find out why. Is it you? Is it your peers? Kids are going to kick those boundaries; it's their job. It is your job and your friends' job to see to it that boundaries are set and that kids are required to stay within them.
This generation may not understand what it is to lose a game, because my generation decided everyone must win something. Somewhere in my lifetime, some adult came up with the bright idea of playing the game just for the fun of playing the game and didn't keep score (at least not publicly). It was not the kidlets who made that decision, it was their parents. Trust me, those kids kept score and knew it well!
It was not this generation who decided that everything needed bumpers to keep them safe, it was some adult in my lifetime who decided to pad everything. It wasn't this generation who decided that everyone should get something simply because they showed up, it was some adult in my lifetime.
Understand, I firmly believe that there are changes that simply are good. I made my child wear a helmet when she rode her bike, even though I didn't (I had the concussions to prove that they should have been invented decades sooner). My child had to sit in a car seat until she was tall enough to sit under a seatbelt without choking on it. My child had to be buckled into the car before it moved, as did (and do) I. We had outlet covers and cabinet locks to protect her, even though I shocked the snot out of myself by putting a bobby pin in the outlet and thought mothballs were candy. Yes indeed, you'd better believe I put safety first where my child was concerned, even though many safety features weren't around when I was a kid.
Sure, I made it to adulthood and so did most of my friends and we have the limps, burns, and impaired memory that goes along with all our bumps and scrapes. By the way, we are also the generation that is helping to raise the cost of healthcare to the stratosphere. I have to wonder if that skyrocketing cost might be because we survived so many bumps and bruising's along the way.
So while you complain that "today's kids/adolescents/young adults" don't know about life, remember that some adult in YOUR lifetime decided to smooth out the bumps and you went along with that decision.